Taken from a workshop given by HORACIO Valsecia, an Argentine psychologist. There
perfect emotional relationships, human relationships, but the couple, are a valuable and powerful tool of evolution, we will always share with people that give us the chance to learn and grow will depend on us to choose between teachers 'loving or violent. "
Lee and find out how to give yourself a great love, because that's 'bad luck in the emotional' is a huge lie, there are many tools to pursue happiness.
If you had family and things went wrong, if you have a partner and things go wrong, remember: 'makes sense' that this person is (has been) in your life, there is something you should learn!
To begin distinguishing if it's love, it taught us to put that title to conflict and neurotic causing pain, frustration and resentment ..
ANYONE SUFFERING FROM LOVE
is absolutely impossible to suffer for love, suffers from deficiencies and childhood emotional wounds. Many believe they are living 'the love of his life' because they sacrifice and put aside their lives.
Love is vitamin F = Happiness is stimulating, well, enthusiastic, forward, be creative, to live in peace. To say that you suffer for love is a total contradiction, does not suffer to be happy.
If you are in a relationship and not give you the love you want, you start looking for a solution, but not the other, but within you.
YOUR PARTNER IS YOUR REFLECTION
If your spouse is a beautiful and successful person you love to know this, but if it is cheating and cold, you do not like the idea. It's true, your partner reflects an internal state of yours who do not drive a conscious level. We blame the other and we want change, we alleviated thinking you have more defects us and 'we cover' the real problem: low self-esteem, and do not give the love that you need yourself.
positive thing is knowing that the power and your hands are a solution: to have a partner and be happy you have to work with yourself, how lucky we should not strive to change the other!
REFLEX IS NOT LITERAL
not to say that you do the same as your partner, but their inappropriate behavior of infidelity, abuse, indifference, etc.. reflect something that your emotional body believes, unconsciously think we deserve the unacceptable, divert the attention on 'bad' which is the other and maintain the neurosis.
We fall into these situations repeating their specific models dad and mom.
· · · CONDITIONS REQUIRED TO HAVE COUPLE · · ·
The first is chemistry, there must be something in the other appeals to you, the second is support: There must be at least 60% of compatible elements third, compromise: both must consciously decide to share their lives to be better, IF ONE IS BACK PRESSURE AND STRESSING THE OTHER, NO COUPLE!, this is a very clear signal.
Recall that the relationship is the love of one another, not the absorption of one another.
Do not forget, who is not prepared to commitment are you and the other is your reflection. Gentlemen, couples who mistreat and humiliate us we are doing the favor of reminding us that we have a lot of internal injuries, you are looking to improve, thank them and leave from
BELIEVE MAKES THE EGO to endure for LOVE, AND NOT TRUE , SUPPORT, COMBAT, LET unbearable, FEEL CHASE, MALTREATMENT HOLD, NOT LOVE.
Beware:
Treat your partner as a child, because then the other will behave as a child. All sobreprotecció n indicates this, and most likely is that infidelity arises because nobody likes to make love to your mother or father. Believe
that children attach to someone. When an incompatible couple stays together 'for children', makes them great harm. They live agonizing separation processes, stormy. If you really love your children, teach them by example to decide and do what they want.
TOUCH ME WHY DIFFICULT COUPLES??
Because internally we have a program that leads us to choose difficult people, we are not prepared to be happy and enjoy love.
also the worst reason to look for a partner is to be alone, if we choose the worst despair. When we have too hungry eat anything, do not choose. If we are emotionally hungry equal, and as couples have to select no hurry or pressure the 'main menu'
Solutions:
1. Stop watching telenovelas. They are the worst source to program the subconscious is pure drama what they put in a very analytical mind and we are always affecting.
2. Reverts your child negative programming. Focuses and choose external models that strengthen your idea of \u200b\u200bhappiness. Use the technique of anchoring, to recognize a positive role model couple in the street, the TV or a book you think, 'This is what I want for me'? Also good habit of focusing attention on the virtues of others and not defects, as in what we thought and attention is reproduced (if I think and I think my partner is unfaithful, create the conditions for that)
3. talk to friends who are happy couples and ask them how they did it. They have information that you ignore, seek knowledge. Our ego invited to envy us, because it manages a narrow concept of scarcity, we must heed the spirit, who knows what love is for everyone, then try and copy, not envy.
PLAN TO FIND YOUR PARTNER
Most believe that love falls from the sky and can not plan, we touch or not touch us. That is false, if we have not achieved a pleasurable emotional life can take action, move, make a plan as if we were on vacation.
1. Make a list of compatibility. We must choose the type of partner. Make a list of characteristics in all aspects you would like to have your partner and covers every detail: physical description, age, socio-cultural, economic, spiritual kinship, etc .... is very specific.
2. Finding the candidate checks: 60% success is forecast up 50% projection is drama. And 80% is a very good percentage.
3. Where to look? Visit sites related to the type of people you want, where there is less competition and shared affinities. If you want sports, go to those sites, and if you dislike the Salidor not go looking for boyfriend in the clubs. Also You can get the word out advertising yourself, tell your friends you're looking couple.
4. Work on yourself. The main source of frustration to the level of partner is wanting to change the other, forget the other. Start looking for all you can do to help, heal the wounds of your inner child and feed it your subconscious mind, as she always executes what is inside.
5. If you are dating and things are not going well, do the same, because when you improve, improves the other .. Now, if there are many things that bother the other, unconsciously you're saying that is the wrong person and want to change it.
personal work will give you two choices: a.
If the person that those who deserve it, give start to a love that waits. B.
If it's not that you should be run and will come back as you want.
A slogan for all: A RELATIONSHIP IS ALWAYS TO BE BETTER.
A good relationship is a contract between two, where both do what is in their power to make life better. If not, no relation, because they have a partner not to compete, change to another or download the neurosis we suffer.
works, do the plan, put date, if not met, do not fret, be persistent. Prepare in advance and get ready to welcome you, remember that a relationship begins long before meeting that person, it begins with you.
Decide how much you pay, ask a person to bring lessons to your life, but in a way you can digest them easily without trauma or pain, ask for a loving teacher. Invest time and effort in deslastrarte of your emotional pain of the past and format a new consciousness, read books looking for professional advice, seek help from people with experience, but above all have the interior work yourself, you reconcile with your past and present. Takes external models that nurture what you have chosen.
Remove from your house all objects from previous relationships, especially if they were bad, give, sell, burn, donate, throw, move it out of your life. If you costs do little by little, but do it. The photos, jewelry, clothing, furniture unconsciously remind you past. All these objects are loaded with 'old wounds'. If the relationship was good and term adult, you can keep them.
If the person you are waiting and there, instead of wasting energies feeling lonely and sad, which takes away from other, talk, say: 'I welcome you, I am preparing, I have many beautiful things to offer'
This message will echo the universe and somehow come to that person who will be for you. If you grasp the anguish, close your eyes and imagine how nice it will be together with your new partner without put face.
is hard to believe and remain in uncertainty, but who has faith receives, only the weak end a relationship and go to another looking for a parachute that will alleviate the pain of the blow
If you are looking for and eliminate doubt, we are successful only in that of what we believe. Ask for help: psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor, etc.. And in the spiritual realm. Disclaimer
suffer, decretal, shout, write, commit yourself to respect you and give you love. First give up what you do not want, then select and says what you want for you. Love yourself, do not live the fantasy of believing that if someone comes love you all will be resolved.
If you generate love, attract love, the great secret of gold for a great relationship is loving yourself, do not sacrifice for anyone, because you unbalanced, if your in the foreground.
forgive and forget, what you lived was a sense but not understand.
Ask God to help you find the plan he has for your life, because we are not called to live miserable, but to live in Love and from Love, because we come from a God who is all Love
perfect emotional relationships, human relationships, but the couple, are a valuable and powerful tool of evolution, we will always share with people that give us the chance to learn and grow will depend on us to choose between teachers 'loving or violent. "
Lee and find out how to give yourself a great love, because that's 'bad luck in the emotional' is a huge lie, there are many tools to pursue happiness.
If you had family and things went wrong, if you have a partner and things go wrong, remember: 'makes sense' that this person is (has been) in your life, there is something you should learn!
To begin distinguishing if it's love, it taught us to put that title to conflict and neurotic causing pain, frustration and resentment ..
ANYONE SUFFERING FROM LOVE
is absolutely impossible to suffer for love, suffers from deficiencies and childhood emotional wounds. Many believe they are living 'the love of his life' because they sacrifice and put aside their lives.
Love is vitamin F = Happiness is stimulating, well, enthusiastic, forward, be creative, to live in peace. To say that you suffer for love is a total contradiction, does not suffer to be happy.
If you are in a relationship and not give you the love you want, you start looking for a solution, but not the other, but within you.
YOUR PARTNER IS YOUR REFLECTION
If your spouse is a beautiful and successful person you love to know this, but if it is cheating and cold, you do not like the idea. It's true, your partner reflects an internal state of yours who do not drive a conscious level. We blame the other and we want change, we alleviated thinking you have more defects us and 'we cover' the real problem: low self-esteem, and do not give the love that you need yourself.
positive thing is knowing that the power and your hands are a solution: to have a partner and be happy you have to work with yourself, how lucky we should not strive to change the other!
REFLEX IS NOT LITERAL
not to say that you do the same as your partner, but their inappropriate behavior of infidelity, abuse, indifference, etc.. reflect something that your emotional body believes, unconsciously think we deserve the unacceptable, divert the attention on 'bad' which is the other and maintain the neurosis.
We fall into these situations repeating their specific models dad and mom.
· · · CONDITIONS REQUIRED TO HAVE COUPLE · · ·
The first is chemistry, there must be something in the other appeals to you, the second is support: There must be at least 60% of compatible elements third, compromise: both must consciously decide to share their lives to be better, IF ONE IS BACK PRESSURE AND STRESSING THE OTHER, NO COUPLE!, this is a very clear signal.
Recall that the relationship is the love of one another, not the absorption of one another.
Do not forget, who is not prepared to commitment are you and the other is your reflection. Gentlemen, couples who mistreat and humiliate us we are doing the favor of reminding us that we have a lot of internal injuries, you are looking to improve, thank them and leave from
BELIEVE MAKES THE EGO to endure for LOVE, AND NOT TRUE , SUPPORT, COMBAT, LET unbearable, FEEL CHASE, MALTREATMENT HOLD, NOT LOVE.
Beware:
Treat your partner as a child, because then the other will behave as a child. All sobreprotecció n indicates this, and most likely is that infidelity arises because nobody likes to make love to your mother or father. Believe
that children attach to someone. When an incompatible couple stays together 'for children', makes them great harm. They live agonizing separation processes, stormy. If you really love your children, teach them by example to decide and do what they want.
TOUCH ME WHY DIFFICULT COUPLES??
Because internally we have a program that leads us to choose difficult people, we are not prepared to be happy and enjoy love.
also the worst reason to look for a partner is to be alone, if we choose the worst despair. When we have too hungry eat anything, do not choose. If we are emotionally hungry equal, and as couples have to select no hurry or pressure the 'main menu'
Solutions:
1. Stop watching telenovelas. They are the worst source to program the subconscious is pure drama what they put in a very analytical mind and we are always affecting.
2. Reverts your child negative programming. Focuses and choose external models that strengthen your idea of \u200b\u200bhappiness. Use the technique of anchoring, to recognize a positive role model couple in the street, the TV or a book you think, 'This is what I want for me'? Also good habit of focusing attention on the virtues of others and not defects, as in what we thought and attention is reproduced (if I think and I think my partner is unfaithful, create the conditions for that)
3. talk to friends who are happy couples and ask them how they did it. They have information that you ignore, seek knowledge. Our ego invited to envy us, because it manages a narrow concept of scarcity, we must heed the spirit, who knows what love is for everyone, then try and copy, not envy.
PLAN TO FIND YOUR PARTNER
Most believe that love falls from the sky and can not plan, we touch or not touch us. That is false, if we have not achieved a pleasurable emotional life can take action, move, make a plan as if we were on vacation.
1. Make a list of compatibility. We must choose the type of partner. Make a list of characteristics in all aspects you would like to have your partner and covers every detail: physical description, age, socio-cultural, economic, spiritual kinship, etc .... is very specific.
2. Finding the candidate checks: 60% success is forecast up 50% projection is drama. And 80% is a very good percentage.
3. Where to look? Visit sites related to the type of people you want, where there is less competition and shared affinities. If you want sports, go to those sites, and if you dislike the Salidor not go looking for boyfriend in the clubs. Also You can get the word out advertising yourself, tell your friends you're looking couple.
4. Work on yourself. The main source of frustration to the level of partner is wanting to change the other, forget the other. Start looking for all you can do to help, heal the wounds of your inner child and feed it your subconscious mind, as she always executes what is inside.
5. If you are dating and things are not going well, do the same, because when you improve, improves the other .. Now, if there are many things that bother the other, unconsciously you're saying that is the wrong person and want to change it.
personal work will give you two choices: a.
If the person that those who deserve it, give start to a love that waits. B.
If it's not that you should be run and will come back as you want.
A slogan for all: A RELATIONSHIP IS ALWAYS TO BE BETTER.
A good relationship is a contract between two, where both do what is in their power to make life better. If not, no relation, because they have a partner not to compete, change to another or download the neurosis we suffer.
works, do the plan, put date, if not met, do not fret, be persistent. Prepare in advance and get ready to welcome you, remember that a relationship begins long before meeting that person, it begins with you.
Decide how much you pay, ask a person to bring lessons to your life, but in a way you can digest them easily without trauma or pain, ask for a loving teacher. Invest time and effort in deslastrarte of your emotional pain of the past and format a new consciousness, read books looking for professional advice, seek help from people with experience, but above all have the interior work yourself, you reconcile with your past and present. Takes external models that nurture what you have chosen.
Remove from your house all objects from previous relationships, especially if they were bad, give, sell, burn, donate, throw, move it out of your life. If you costs do little by little, but do it. The photos, jewelry, clothing, furniture unconsciously remind you past. All these objects are loaded with 'old wounds'. If the relationship was good and term adult, you can keep them.
If the person you are waiting and there, instead of wasting energies feeling lonely and sad, which takes away from other, talk, say: 'I welcome you, I am preparing, I have many beautiful things to offer'
This message will echo the universe and somehow come to that person who will be for you. If you grasp the anguish, close your eyes and imagine how nice it will be together with your new partner without put face.
is hard to believe and remain in uncertainty, but who has faith receives, only the weak end a relationship and go to another looking for a parachute that will alleviate the pain of the blow
If you are looking for and eliminate doubt, we are successful only in that of what we believe. Ask for help: psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor, etc.. And in the spiritual realm. Disclaimer
suffer, decretal, shout, write, commit yourself to respect you and give you love. First give up what you do not want, then select and says what you want for you. Love yourself, do not live the fantasy of believing that if someone comes love you all will be resolved.
If you generate love, attract love, the great secret of gold for a great relationship is loving yourself, do not sacrifice for anyone, because you unbalanced, if your in the foreground.
forgive and forget, what you lived was a sense but not understand.
Ask God to help you find the plan he has for your life, because we are not called to live miserable, but to live in Love and from Love, because we come from a God who is all Love
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